By the time I was 11 years old, I had become my own biggest critic. My self-bashing developed from interactions with other girls at school and especially from seeing the women in my life, including my mother and other female family members, struggle with body image issues and self-hatred of their bodies.
At 11, and even at 21, I didn’t realize I was not alone with such feelings. I stopped nourishing myself, and thus cut myself out from life itself. Back then, I didn’t understand I was abusing food to cope with what I was really hungry for: love, acceptance, and the realization that I was whole and perfect the way I was.
Learning to love oneself can be challenging for those of us who have been taught the opposite. I thought self-care was selfish. My self-talk to describe myself was cynical, mean, and sarcastic. I thought that was normal. No one told me that I could be strong and how to fight my own demons. So I became excellent at blaming and ultimately became a victim of all I was taught was done wrong to me.
Know this, my sisters: self-love--the ultimate relationship you have with yourself--is pivotal. All other relationships and situations in your life can be pretty much measured by this love affair with your Divine Self. That’s pretty amazing, don’t you think?
I know it’s possible to embody self-love, and let me tell you, it’s fantastic! How do you begin such an intimate relationship with yourself? I find that the following tips can help bring you to that realization and a life of hope, self-love, and connection with your Divine Feminine.